Responses Needed: Positive Thinkers Only

Back in April, I started teaching English part time for a British company that offers classes to businesses.

In the mornings and afternoons, before and after work, I spend an hour and a half teaching one-on-one classes.

The demand for English teachers is high here.

During my daily job search for full-time work, I see tons of ads for English teachers.

The economy is very strong in Peru, and many corporations want their employees to speak English because that’s the language of international business…….at least for now.

I’ve never considered myself the teacher type.

But on this rare occasion where I have the upper hand in knowledge, I do have something to offer.

I was considering this a temporary “gig,” until I find full-time employment, but with the number of responses to resumes I’m sending out, this may end up being more permanent.

And that’s o.k.

At least for as long as our savings hold out.

Don’t know what we’ll do then, but that’s a concern for another day.

Which leads me to share a recent revelation that came about, partly due to my teaching job.

A revelation about the power of positive thinking.

Baby steps toward positive

The other day, someone shared a quote on Facebook.

Lao Tzu, the Chinese philosopher and poet said:

If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.

When we first moved to Peru, I spent a lot of time depressed and anxious.

Adri with Elsa

At a party: Adriana with Elsa from Frozen. When I focus on the present, and enjoy the important moments, I can’t help but feel positive.

The only times I felt good — and feel good now — were when I focused on the now. A dinner out with my wife, playing at the park with Santiago or watching Adriana at a great therapy session or surrounded by her classmates.

After almost a year of settling in, things are much better, but the negative emotions still creep in now and again.

Particularly when I’m focused on my job search.

Both Gaby and I worry about finding work that pays enough to preserve our savings.

Then yesterday, she said, “I’m not going to worry about it anymore.”

We always tell each other that something good will come along soon.

Actually, she says it more than I do.

Adri and Santi with Anna

Adri and Santi with Anna from Frozen

But it all comes back to positive thinking.

And, in our case, the faith that God will provide everything we need.

He’s done it so far, so there’s no reason to believe otherwise. Or so says the positive thinker in me.

The last couple of weeks, my lesson plans for a couple of my English students revolved around positive thinking.

We read articles about positive thinkers and how they are typically more productive, healthier and happier than pessimists.

We went through grammar exercises where the student responded with positive or negative responses to statements I made.

For example, I would say: “I’m getting married.”

The student would respond positively with, “Congratulations! I’m sure you’ll be very happy.”

And negatively (or perhaps realistically) with, “You’ll be divorced in a year.”

Just kidding about the “realistically” part.

Sadly, it was all too easy for me to formulate the negative responses.

I guess that comes from a lifetime of leaning toward pessimism.

Yesterday, I asked Gaby what type of job she really wants.

She said she would like to work for an airline.

I immediately jumped on the pessimist’s bandwagon.

“You want to commute three hours a day?!” I asked.

I could argue that I asked her “nicely” and with “great concern,” but there’s really no nice way to dash someone’s hopes.

That’s when I pray to God to make me the loving husband she deserves. The one that can show her just how much I love her.

One might argue that this would take a miracle.

But, I’m positive I can transform………..about 75% positive.

Or at least I can begin the transformation. With God, any miracle is possible.

Oh and if you have any suggestions on living a more positive life, send them over.

This is definitely an area where I lack in knowledge.

4 thoughts on “Responses Needed: Positive Thinkers Only

  1. “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Chris Jesus” Phil 4:6..Just what you are doing.
    Love you,
    Lucy

  2. Alguien me dijo alguna vez que debía preocuparme sólo por las cosas que podría cambiar o al menos mejorar, no por aquellas que estaba totalmente fuera de mi control.

    Aveces nos encontramos quejándonos de asuntos que no podemos controlar generando mucha frustración y pérdida de energía.

    No me considero una persona 100% optimista pero esa recomendación me ayudó a priorizar en qué enfocarme, por eso la comparto contigo esperando te sea útil.

    Tu lo has dicho: la economía en Perú está muy fuerte. Eso significa que hay más mercado y necesitamos más profesionales como ustedes. Estoy segura que pronto encontrarán lo que están buscando o más bien alguien los encontrará a ustedes!

    Disfruta de estos grandes momentos con tus hijos para que cuando tengas que volver al trabajo full time mires hacia atrás y veas esta etapa como la más provechosa de tu vida.

    No todos los papis tienen la oportunidad de compartir con sus hijos el tiempo que tu les estás dando.

    Suerte!

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